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Trusting God in the ‘In-Between’

barber-bathrobe-bathroom-hairLadies, have you ever grown out your bangs, or decided to change hairstyles?
I’m currently in the process of growing out short layers and let me tell you, it is not fun. 
Hair growth is slow.  Tedious. My hair does not lay right. It flips. I hate it. 

What can I do about it? Read on to discover ways to alleviate the discomfort of this intermediate space I refer to as ‘in-between’. 


Ask yourself: Are you change averse?


Change is inevitable and promotes growth. There is nothing wrong with change if it is in the right direction. –-Winston Churchill. 

Some of us thrive on change. The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance. – Alan Watts

What is transition exactly?

Transition (noun) is the passage from one state, stage, subject, or place to another; also known as change, it is a movement, development, or evolution from one form, stage, or style to another. 
Change makes something different in a particular way. It is to alter, to make radically different or transform. Change gives a different position, course, or direction to something or someone as in to change residence or move. 
What can I do about my dissatisfaction with my hairstyle? 
1. I can accept the process and make the best of it.
Attitude truly matters, especially when encountering transition. I can view my discomfort as cumbersome, tiresome and full of new adjustments (all of which are true) … or I can choose to see the new opportunities that lay ahead. Such as – since my ears show when I slick back my hair, my cute earrings are now visible. Yay! 
2. Refuse impatience during the In-Between stage. 
I’m talking to myself here. This entire post is my journal entry as I walk this corridor of the In-Between where I’ve lived since March 2018. My husband and I sold our Florida home in March 2018. We bought a home in the western North Carolina foothills in April 2018 but cannot move there until he retires July 2, 2019. Buying a home and not living there is like buying a new truck that you’re not allowed to drive. Or new jewelry you can’t wear. I’ve been confronting my impatience. Here is what I’ve gleaned.
My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing (James 1:1-4 NKJV).
3. Why should I allow patience to have its perfect work?
The Message Bible version illustrates this concept well. 

new monarch with cocoons

Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way (James 1:2-4 MSG). 
The in-between interval is where the monarch’s antenna are perfected, the exquisite white dots develop and ethereal veining grows. 
If a monarch butterfly cocoon is unable to complete the maturing process, the butterfly inside cannot live. I’ve seen missing legs and undeveloped wings. I’ve had to euthanize deformed ones and although heartbreaking, it was an act of mercy before they died on their own. 
Modern medicine has progressed such that premature babies can now survive and thrive, however, prematurity is not God’s way. God’s way is to let patience have its perfect work in us through the in-betweens. Choose to embrace patience by living in the moment.
4. Get God’s perspective on your situation.
James 1:5 advises, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.”

If you want to survive and thrive during this time of transition, it’s important to get into God’s perspective and trust that He’s still in charge. He’s not forgotten you, He’s not forgotten the Church, He hasn’t forgotten your country. God is inviting you to enter into His rest, where you can find peace during the storms and the trials and transitions. Doug Addison

Change blog headline memeGod wants to guide us. He is present, ready to listen to our laundry list of fears, concerns, and needs. I found myself anxious about a foreboding dream my husband had last week. I carried it with anxiety for a whole day until I told my Abba about it. He kindly gave me an aha-moment of divine revelation from His Word that altered my entire perspective. 

Divine wisdom does that. It breaks through the muck and mire of anxious thoughts, lightening them into holy, white dots contrasting the blackness of this world.

Humanism offers us inspiring quotes on the subject of change but they don’t provide peace in the storm we feel inside during the interval space. 

5. Determine to spend time in God’s presence, despite your hectic schedule. 

Only God can provide peace. Only the rest of God (Hebrews 4) calms the heart and lessens the intensity of emotion that accompany a transition. Once I determined to be present in the moment here in Florida, resist impatience and embrace the character development that my Father was orchestrating inside me, I can say with assurance that it is well with my soul. I am now at rest while living in my in-between time this June 2019. 

PRAYER: I want to pray for you, reader. Kind Jesus, I ask you to grant revelation to each one walking the hallway between chapters of their life. Whether they are moving, adjusting to widowhood, divorce, loss or any kind of change, I ask you to open their eyes to what they need to know in order to enter into and remain in Your divine rest during this season.  Grant them Your wisdom and a word in season to calm and settle them, in Jesus’s name, Amen. 

I’d love to know what in-between you are navigating and if this post helped. Love you! 

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4 replies

  1. Thanks, Kathryn! This was encouraging to me. I’ve been in my “in-between” for almost 5 years now. I’m 100% sure that there’s more to my story, but it has been a painfully slow process. I truly embrace change in every way and I thrive on it, so this in-between time has been extremely boring because I’m anxious to move on to the next chapter. It really has been a significant struggle to wait patiently.
    Thanks for the encouragement!


    1. You are so welcome. Thanks for following my site, too. You will receive posts directly via email now so you won’t miss any. I post only 2-3 times monthly.
      I will be praying for you in this regard. I understand what you must be feeling and agree, your book is still being written, many chapters remaining. Hugs!


  2. I like the way you started the blog with light hearted examples to interest the reader, then worked into the more serious points about change using the butterfly example and God’s word to help clarify your points—Great post!

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